Gay first
Six ways to be a good first go out – for gay men
By Emen8, updated 1 year ago in Sex and dating / Dating and relationships
Ready to meet him IRL? Whatever you’re looking for, here are six easy ways to build a good impression on a first date – for gay, bi+ and queer men.
The art of dating in the queer world isn’t dead but it has changed a lot.
One thing that hasn’t changed is the awkwardness of first dates! Attempt too hard to impress and you’ll come across as desperate or cocky. Play it too chilly and he’ll think you’re not interested. It’s a fine line to stroll, especially when he’s right there distracting you with his beard and biceps and nice cologne.
To aid navigate the gay internet dating minefield, we’ve put together some hard-won wisdom, just for guys who enjoy guys.
1. Establish whether it’s a date or a hook-up. And be prepared for either
If you’ve studied history, you’ll know there was a time when people went days, even weeks (!!!) dating someone without having sex. But for those of us in the era of apps, sex on the first date is often very much on the table (or the couch). The line between ‘dating’ and ‘just hanging out’ isn’t as sharp as it could b
If you feel burned out on coming up with questions for a first date, you’re not alone! The ritual of first dates can often touch repetitive and lackluster. There are only so many ways to ask a version of so what are your interests? And if you’ve already been chatting a bit on the apps or during the lead up to a dine (which, for the record, I somewhat advise against unless that’s truly your preference for getting to know someone!), it can be even harder to know what to say on a first date. But asking questions is important. If you show up to a date and only answer the other person’s interrogate or otherwise only talk about yourself, trust you’re probably about to acquire subtweeted or roasted in a community chat. There is no perfect roadmap for how to crush a first date, but the number one thing you can act to at least ensure a baseline decent experience is ask your date(s) about themselves!
The questions below are constructed to inject some life and creativity back into your first date interrogate asking if you’re feeling stuck or stalled in the dating process. You can ask them word for pos or use them to riff and come up with your own against-the-grain ques
by Jordan Redman
Staff Writer
Do you know what the word male lover really means?
The word gay dates back to the 12th century and comes from the Mature French “gai,” meaning “full of joy or mirth.” It may also relate to the Elderly High German “gahi,” meaning impulsive.
For centuries, gay was used commonly in speech and literature to mean happy, carefree, bright and showy, and did not get on any sexual meaning until the 1600s.
At that time the meaning of gay as carefree evolved to imply that a person was unrestrained by morals and prone to decadence and promiscuity. A prostitute might hold been described as a “gay woman” and a womanizer as a “gay man.”
“Gay house” was commonly used to refer to a brothel and, later, “gaiety” was used as a shared name for certain places of entertainment.
In the 1890s, the designation “gey cat” (a Scottish variant of gay) was used to describe a vagrant who offered sexual services to women or a young traveler who was new to the road and in the company of an older man.
This latter use suggests that the younger man was in a sexually submissive role and may be among the first times that gay was used implying a homosexual relationship.
In 1951, gay appeared in the
The Oldest Known Lgbtq+ Man?
April 7, 2011 -- Archaeologists in the Czech Republic have unearthed the grave of what may be the remains of the oldest known gay or transgender man.
The prehistoric body dates to the Copper age -- or 2900 to 2500 years ago -- and was buried in a way that was typically reserved for women.
The male skeleton was found on its side, facing east, and was surrounded by domestic jugs, objects previously seen only in female graves. An oval, egg-shaped container, usually associated with female burials, was also found at the feet of the skeleton.
"From history and ethnology, we perceive that people from this period took funeral rites very seriously, so it is highly unlikely that this positioning was a mistake," lead archaeologist Kamila Remisova Vesinova told the U.K.'s Telegraph.
Men of the period were buried with weapons -- stone battle axes and flint knives -- none of which were found in the Czech grave.
Vesinova concluded that the grave represents "one of the earliest cases of what could be described as a 'transsexual' or 'third gender grave' in the Czech Republic."
Not everyone is so convinced.
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