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List of LGBTQ+ terms
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Abro (sexual and romantic)
A word used to detail people who have a fluid sexual and/or lovey-dovey orientation which changes over time, or the course of their life. They may use different terms to describe themselves over time.
Ace
An umbrella term used specifically to describe a lack of, varying, or occasional experiences of sexual attraction. This encompasses asexual people as well as those who identify as demisexual and grey-sexual. Ace people who experience love-related attraction or occasional sexual attraction might also apply terms such as lgbtq+, bi, lesbian, straight and queer in conjunction with asexual to describe the direction of their love-related or sexual attraction.
Ace and aro/ace and aro spectrum
Umbrella terms used to narrate the wide group of people who experience a lack of, varying, or occasional experiences of amorous and/or sexual attraction, including a lack of attraction. People who identify under these umbrella terms may describe themselves using one or more of a wide variety of terms, including, but not limited to, asexual, ace, aromantic, aro, demi, grey, and abro. People may also use terms such as gay,
After recovering from my last breakup, I decided to fetch on the apps (the dating and hookup apps, that is). Gay affair apps allow you to state your sexual preferences: are you a highest, bottom, versatile, and so forth. As I was creating my first profile, on Scruff, this option gave me pause.
How do I identify? For me, as a transgender man, this ask has always required some extra unpacking. Think of a prank birthday display, where the token is placed in a box that’s been wrapped in multiple layers of duct tape, which has been placed in a box that’s been wrapped in multiple layers of duct tape…and so on. If the gift I’m unpacking is my “true identity,” then the duct tape is society’s expectations of me, and the boxes are the labels that I pass through and discard along the way.
For example: the first person I came out to as transgender was one of my exes—a lesbian who I’d been with for three years. I knew on an intuitive level that she (and others, such as certain family members) would be resistant to the idea of me identifying as a man and transitioning. Since I was not prepared for our relationship to end, I turned a blind eye to my intense chest and bring down dysphoria, a
The Club by Jarek Steele
The club is situated in a warehouse district proximate downtown St. Louis, a low building with turn-of-the-century brickwork that looks prefer every other minor brick building in the city, surrounded by weedy parking lots and rusty chain link fences. When my companion Steven invited me to soak in the hot tub with him there, I had to Google it to make sure it was what I thought it was. Honestly, I’d idea that bathhouses were a relic of the Time Before, when men ducked into gay saunas to have anonymous sex without the fear of AIDS. I grew up in the eighties and nineties and knew only the Time After, when the crusades to shut them down in cities love San Francisco and New York underscored the fear of the plague and the drive to exterminate queerness rather than caring for the sick. That fear crept into my Midwestern Southern Baptist existence and made every lgbtq+ person a lgbtq+ man, wasting away, an ominous cautionary tale, body poison to everyone around him. I could only see the view from the TV at the Days Inn, where I cleaned rooms; from there, gay joy was as removed—as irrelevant—as Broadway, Wall Street, and Hollywood. It sparkled in this forbidden way.
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Out On The Couch
By Jacob Rostovsky, MA
Keywords: Gay, Transgender, Penis
For some individuals, to be a gender diverse male (someone who is assigned female at birth and identifies as male) in this occasion is hard enough. But when you add in identifying as gay (attracted to men and identifying as male), it can make life even more hard. As a transgender gay male, I know this first hand. As a therapist who has worked with many transgender men who also identify as queer, I know that it is common for gay trans men to experience a flooding of thoughts when being out in the gay male community. Some of these involve anxiety and fear, especially when going to bars and clubs. Most of these clients share the phobia that not having a penis could put them in a precarious situation. Their thoughts generally fall into the following themes:
- Would someone find out they don’t have a penis?
- Would someone impair them, or even sexually assault them, because they don’t include a penis?
- Will they be proficient to go to the bathroom without worry and bother?
- Is someone going to make rude comments, or fetishizing ones, or inform them they don’t belong?
- How much of their night is going to be spent in